My journey as a single mother of three officially began, November 6, 2013. Today, marks the 7 year anniversary of my 11-year marriage, officially ending. I am sure you're probably wondering why I am writing a blog post about a day that many would consider to be sad or not worthy of acknowledging.
Well...I am wired a little differently. I don't view the end of my marriage as something to be sad about. I view the end of my marriage as a close of a chapter in my life and the beginning of a new chapter. If you have read my book, Women Who Persevere: Navigating Motherhood With Power And Grace, you will understand why I acknowledge this date. As a woman who believes in the institution of marriage, one of the hardest decisions that I had to make was the termination of my marriage. As a mother of three young children at the time, the last thing that I wanted to do was disrupt the life they knew. However, I had to make a decision between living a lie and living a life filled with my peace (of mind), contentment, happiness, and continuous growth.
The decision to divorce my now ex-husband, took every bit of courage, faith, and determination to see it through. Once the decision was made, I didn't look back...I continued to forge forward in my truth. Seven years later, I don't have any regrets regarding what was the most difficult decision that I'd ever made. Since the time of my divorce, Allah (God) has blessed me with a life filled with so many opportunities. He has blessed me to be in a position to care and provide for my children, introduce them to numerous experiences, and to help others. I strive to live up to my name, which means "Growing, Counselor, Worthy of Praise". More importantly, I strive to maintain transparency with the hope that I can inspire and empower others to live in their truth and walk in their purpose.
If you are reading this and you are in the midst of a transition, I hope that you find the silver lining to any trial or tribulation that you may be experiencing during this season. Remember, trials purify and after the storm, the sun will shine bright. R&B singer, Kelly Price's song "It's Gonna Rain" comes to mind:
"It will rain. There'll be pain.
(Only for a little while). Trouble will come. Understand
Count it on joy Mornin' will come (After the rain) The sun will shine Keep your head high..."
Let these lyrics be a reminder that there is always light after darkness. You are strong, resilient, and you will persevere with power and grace!
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